6 Secrets for Women Who Want to Have It All: Including Working Life Balance

by Justina Ford | Jan 11, 2017 | Business Mindset, Motherhood & Homeschooling | 0 comments

6 Secrets for Women Who Want to Have It All: Including Working Life Balance

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Introduction

This question,“can women have it all?” really puts a lot of pressure on women to believe that we actually are responsible for doing it all or that we have to do it “all”.

It imposes the idea that “all”, is only our responsibility. It removes the men in our lives from the equation.

Let’s ask that another way. Can men really have it all? How did that feel? What effect does that question have on men?

I guess somehow in this society we believe that men already have it all. So we don’t have to ask them that. But this is so far from true. Men struggle with not having a clear idea of what “All” means to them as well.

Questioning if women can have it all also creates a sense of lack. It stirs up the “I’m not enough stories”. We begin to question the choices in our life thinking that we to have something more. When you are doing what you love that counts as having it all.

Here are My 6 secrets to having it all

1. You have to Determine what “All” means to you.

Having it all may mean running your own passion-based business AND having time for your children.

It could also mean being a stay at home mom without the business or job.

Either way determining what makes you happy and not getting caught up with what society thinks you should have is the first step to truly having it all…your way

2. Embrace the idea that It’s ok for you to want what you want.

Get clear on what you really want out of life

There doesn’t have to be this energy of guilt surrounding your desires to grow your business and spend time with your children.

It’s not one or the other it’s really about you embracing your desires and being creative about achieving them

3. Be creative in solving your problems.

We all run into snags sometimes.

Maybe you’ll have to strategize around what hours you can work with wanting to be home when your kids get out of school (remember only if that is an actual desire of yours to be there when they get out of school and not because you feel obligated to).

Maybe you’ll have to talk to your boss about doing some hours from home.

Either way being creative in solving the problems that may be preventing you from doing all that you desire is key!

4.You have to be a master at asking for help: You can’t do it alone.

Actually, I’m begging you not to attempt to do it alone.

I got a taste of being a single parent when my husband got deployed and I got a chance to exercise my super powers of asking for help.

That means asking the family that is nearby, neighbors, friends, church members, and sports coaches for help.

I remember having a 2-day commercial shoot with Target and having to ask my neighbor to take my son to practice 2 days in a row because I wasn’t able to.

I couldn’t have done the commercial shoot and kept my son on the all-star football team without help

5. Believe that you can have it “all” (whatever that means to you)

You must believe that the things you desire in life are achievable.

I remember when I started my first passion based business that required me leaving the home. I used to say yes in faith to the jobs I was requested for.

I didn’t have child care set up yet but I believed that something would come through in order for me to be able to make it.

6. Stop trying to have it “all” and embrace where you’re at.

Do all that you can with what you already have.

You’re all is something that continually changes.

In one of my “all” moments I was doing 1 thing homeschooling my children, no coaching, and makeup business, no writing, no published articles and we were on top of the world.

My all began to change at different stages in my life.

So I’m not chasing it all, I’m chasing embracing who I am and what I believe and living a life that is aligned with my values.

Justina is a Pro MUA and Mindset and Success Coach. You can find her in her Facebook Group The Purposeful Pursuit to a Beautiful You.

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Justina holds a Bachelor’s degree in Psychology, a Master’s in Human Service Counseling focused in Business, and additional training in the Emotional Freedom Technique and Splankna Therapy. She is an Amazon #1 International Best-Selling Author, Huffington Post Contributor and Contributing Author of Notes to Younger Women. She also serves as a Commercial Makeup Artist to Professional Photographers, Marketing and Advertising Teams. She is an intuitive business coach and Christian energy healer. She calls herself The Soul-Purpose Alignment Strategist. She helps new and aspiring Christian Coaches and service based Mompreneurs to overcome limiting beliefs surrounding their purpose and their call to create in the marketplace.

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8 Major Differences Between Healthy and Unhealthy States of Deserving

by Justina Ford | Nov 4, 2016 | Business Mindset

2 Thessalonian 8:11 With this in mind, we constantly pray for you, that our God may make

you worthy of his calling, and that by his power he may bring to fruition your every desire for

goodness and your every deed prompted by faith.

Introduction

As a believing woman of faith, I’ve heard so many speak about this concept of deserving. I’ve lived on the extreme end of feeling like I was unworthy. As I became of aware of this concept “Deserving” and how the lack of feeling like we deserve things holds u back from receiving, I made some mental shifts. I even found myself on the extreme end of this shift. Sometimes we must find ourselves on both side of the fence to find the happy medium. I began to ponder this question: When you are upset about an opportunity you think you should have gotten what does that say about you? I began to realize, There is a fine line between accepting that you are deserving of the many opportunities that God has for you and then feeling like you deserve things that are not called for you in divine timing. Are you living in a state of being or a state of wanting? Read on as I share the core 8 differences between living in a mindset of healthy state of deserving and operating from a place of prideful deserving.

I am Deserving: You are worthy to receive, you are able to receive

This is a state of being.
That means we humbly accept the goodness that God has promised us without feeling shameful or guilty about it.
That means that you can hold your head up and be grateful that God has blessed you
We all deserve greatness but it is greatness in God and defined by him.

I Deserved: This should have been mine and I should have gotten this

This idea of deserve shows up in a past tense state as that belonged to me.
You are in a state of wanting.
You are claiming something that God has not presented to you as yours.
You feel as if you were missing out or as if you were cheated.

Conclusion

“I am deserving” means we can have desires and we can safely express our desires to God? Yes, we can but above all we must find gratitude in the opportunities presented before us even when we feel we should have had a bigger part or higher status role. “I deserve” is not the state of deserve that we talk about from a spiritual and humble mindset. There is such a fine line with identifying yourself as being deserving of good and then also operating in such a flow that when you don’t get the things you thought you were you, don’t slip into a pity party of “that should have been mine” or “why wasn’t that for me when I wanted it so badly” or “I’m not good enough since I didn’t get”

Justina is a Pro MUA and Mindset and Success Coach. You can find her in her Facebook Group The Purposeful Pursuit to a Beautiful You. Join her group to get free access to the Now…That’s a Beautiful You 10-Day Mindset Series. Her Free Gift to all new members!!

Transform Your Thinking in a Co-Creative Process with God

by Justina Ford | Oct 19, 2016 | Business Mindset, Spirituality

Transform Your Thinking in a Co-Creative Process with God

“For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.”

(Proverbs 23:7)

God is concerned about our thought process so much that he speaks to it in this verse above. We have free will to transform our thinking in a co-creative process with God through his word.

What you focus on expands

Literally, I’ve just read one passage about giving God the glory and talking about the wonders of his name, and he flashed an image before my face, the Holy Spirit, just showing me how, when I used to struggle in my marriage, how I wouldn’t look at my husband. I couldn’t focus on his actions or his attitude. Now I don’t think it matters whether it’s a

marriage
school
a teacher that’s driving you crazy
a boss that’s frustrating you
your business itself that’s frustrating you

God showed me how

I stopped looking at the person
I shifted my focus.
I redirected my energy
I chose love
I chose connection and closeness

So, take all of that into account and don’t look at the situation with your natural eyes! We look at how things are going, I mean you already know what you believe about your situation. You already think it sucks, it’s a waste of time, it’s not going to work…. so

why keep looking at it that way,
why keep focusing on it
why keep digging at it
why keep talking about it
why keep complaining about it

So, the image that flashed before me was where I took my eyes off that situation, almost like turning my back to it, but I had a space with God, and I had a space in that relationship with him where I could talk to him about it. No complaining, no feeling sorry for myself, but just talking to him and thanking him, and telling him how glorious and wonderful and great he is, no matter how my situation turned out.

Let it go with ease

I think that’s that aspect of when people mention not being attached to something, where we’re so attached to a situation that we let the ups and downs of it to cause our emotions to go all over the place. But if you’re grounded in

how great God is
how much He cares about you and
has your best interests at heart
how much He loves you
how much He’s already given for you
how much more he’s willing to do for you
how you have a purpose in him

Then we stay in a higher vibration, as some would say. Our energy stays high, our thought process is higher, our being is just higher, because we’re in tune with him, we’re attached to him instead of our situation, frustration, or that issue or that problem. I want to challenge you today that as you go through whatever difficult thing has been popping up for you, that your communication or your speech about whatever it is, changes.

You know when that person walks in the room and you they are the source of “whatever it is”, praise God and tell him thank you, and really focus on Him above.
You know when that client said they were going to sign and then you never hear from them again and you start to judge yourself and say you should have done more, praise God and tell him thank you, and really focus on Him above.
You know when you set that financial goal and somehow it just slipped right through your fingers and you didnt get close…Praise God anyways, tell him Thank You for this lesson. Your livelihood is not dependent on man.

Say it with me: “My livelihood, my finances, and my desires are not dependent on man!!!

Conclusion

You are what you think and we must ground ourselves in the goodness of God and his desire for us to have good things. I encourage you to see where in your life you can reframe your thoughts and ground yourself in truth. As multi-passionate women of faith balancing families and work keeping our eyes on the Lord is so important!!

Justina Ford is a Christian Mindset Coach. She is The Soul-Alignment Strategist for Multi-Passionate Business Women of Faith. She teaches entrepreneurial-minded women of faith how to overcome their limiting beliefs, embrace their self-worth, and utilize their God-given talents. Through her work, clients have experienced personal and professional breakthroughs that allow them monetize their divine passions. She believes real beauty starts with you. Now is the time to embrace the value of your uniqueness so you can propel forward and operate in your purposeful business.

Justina holds a Bachelor’s degree in Psychology, a Master’s in Human Service Counseling focused in Business, and additional training in the Emotional Freedom Technique and Splankna Therapy. She is an Amazon #1 International Best-Selling Author. She also serves as a Commercial Makeup Artist, providing her first love, professional hair and makeup services to Award-Winning Photographers, Marketing and Advertising Teams. She has worked with clients such as South Magazine, Coastal Living Magazine, Toyota, Fox 8 News, and Target Stores to name a few. She is a Huffington Post Contributor and Contributing Author of Notes to Younger Women. To schedule a complimentary clarity session with her click on the link calendly.com/discoverwithjustina You can also find her in her Facebook Group The Purposeful Pursuit to a Beautiful You.

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You didn’t Crash and Burn…You’re simply making room for expansion

by Justina Ford | Sep 19, 2016 | Business Mindset

What happens when you’ve slowed down on social media to truly reflect where you’re heading with your business?

What happens when you lose the flow of your posting schedule and you don’t even know where to start.

What happens when you think your voice won’t matter anymore?

What happens when you feel stuck?

You haven’t spoken up in over 2 months and we all know that is forever in the online world. You’ve not posted on all your social media platforms, You haven’t recorded a video, You’ve not showed up in your own FB group!

What happens to your self-esteem and your confidence when these actions take place? Well, I should really ask what happens to your self-esteem and confidence when NOTHING has taken place? Well, you already know cause you are feeling that way now…lost, confused, not sure where to start.

How about when you are sucked into this idea that you have to be online 24-7 in order to make a dollar? Well, it can be pretty depressing to know or should I say “think” that you have to start all over.

(Tweet this) Truth is being on social media all the time does not equate to running a business or conducting money-making activity (Tweet This)

You didn’t always feel this way…You actually had some rhyme or reason to what you were doing months before but somehow you’ve experienced something called burnout. That’s what it is. In all actuality, I really hate the term “burnout”. It feels so cliché, it feels like I crashed and burned and there’s no return. There’s no getting back up. But Really with all these emotions and thoughts there is light at the end of the tunnel. There is a lesson to be learned and taught to others. For you my dear you aren’t starting over you are just picking up where you left off as a brighter, smarter, and wiser you.

So…let me revisit some of those questions and share with you my answers.

What can happen when you’ve slow down on social media?

For starters you get to reflect where you were/are heading with your business… So in my book, Amazing things can happen! You begin to have a new sense of confidence and clarity. You can find a new sense of commitment to your goals and what you stand for in your business. You can begin to find your own voice again. You know what when you are constantly online being bombarded by everyone else’s messages you can begin to sound like or imitate someone you really admire. But guess what? You aren’t that person so this time away can bring about a uniqueness in you, and difference in you where you begin to stand out more in your own niche in this sea of online businesses.

What can happen when you lose your flow of your posting schedule and you don’t even know where to start?

Realistically you haven’t lost your flow…you had it scheduled once before. If you scheduled it before I’m sure you can refer back to your old schedule but this time with a breath of fresh ideas and opinions. You can find it on a piece of paper a word document, one of your planners. Start looking back and re-evaluating what you were doing before the burnout. You may just be in a bit of a funk…YOU personally and internally may not be in a flow but that’s ok. Begin to reconnect with your creator first, with the God who created you and listen in to your spirit and where He would have you begin. He’s given you a message for others and you know you gotta get it out to the masses. Start small. Start with an inspirational photo, feel free to reintroduce yourself. Do whatever feels right to you but whatever you do never give up because you lost your flow or feel like you don’t know where to start. I can help with that…I hope this blog post is helping with that now.

What happens when you think your voice won’t matter?

Well honey, this is more of an internal thing. If you are feeling like your voice won’t matter then guess what…it won’t. It’s not for you to determine how your story will connect with others. It’s not for you to give a consensus on the wonderful message imparted within you. Nope you don’t get to judge your message before sharing with others. When I stepped outside of my own comfort zone and begin to share my story and share what I stood for, guess what. I got an astounding…”That was powerful”. This was a mindset shift that I was sharing with other women in my group. Do you know that I re-edited and re-edited and stressed over this message for days before I put it out? Your voice is your message and when you share it just know, if you’ve touched one person you’ve done your job!!!

How I Honored My Values and Respected My Boundaries Around Marriage and Business

by Justina Ford | Sep 12, 2016 | Business Mindset | 2 comments

I did a search to see when the last time it was that I posted in a FB group relevant to my niche. I found that it was the end of June. So that means all of July, August and now the beginning of September . That’s about 10 weeks of internal reflection without posting in any Facebook groups, well except my own. June’s around the time I realized I had to take a step back from my own business goals to support my husband’s new business. I can’t say I made the decision all at once or head in with the full awareness of what I was doing. I think I was pulled by the hair just a little bit with constant reminders of “now…this is your business not mine remember” More so trying to convince myself and not him…

I decided to step back from goals and begin to support him with his business little by little and day by day and soon realized that it was what I meant to do. At first, I struggled with the idea of letting go of my own desires and passions and putting myself on the back burner once again. You know how we moms tend to put ourselves last and we are so quick to put down what we are working on in efforts to help everyone else and solve everyone else’s problems. Initially I struggled with this being the theme of my life for the summer. I wrestled with the idea of putting 20 plus hours into my husband’s business and I worried about taking on too much, where eventually his business would become our business. But what was I really running away from or what was I really resistant to.

It was the idea of boundaries…I wanted to establish the boundary of having a business of my own. But then I was reminded that “my business” isn’t even the right term. It’s HIS (God’s) business. So I had to re-evaluate my over-arching goal for our family. That goal has always been freedom, flexibility and finances. Was helping my husband taking me away from the bigger goal at hand? Was laying aside my own desires and hard work really suffocating me from operating as the entrepreneur and leader that I was. I had to have a change of heart and say no.

Putting “My business” to the side really gave me an opportunity to live up to one of my values and that was “family first no matter what!” Hey this is what I teach in my coaching. How to live an authentic life that reflects our values and beliefs. And you know what it’s been so rewarding!

It’s been rewarding:

to be in a position to train and motivate my husband

to be in a place where I could choose to slow down on my business and honor my commitment to my husband

to experience working together and encouraging each other

to watch my husband, try his best and grow in something totally out of his comfort zone

to experience his growth in the insurance industry (he’s an expert at the presentation now)

to give my children the opportunity to become a little more independent

to have my children grow closer as they couldn’t rely on me being there 24/7

to see our faith in God, grow (because starting a new business is hard and we were lacking the security of having a savings, writing another post on that soon) why we should have had a savings before embarking on our new business venture and how we’ll have a second go around)

Sometimes we talk about honoring our values and living an authentic life full of purpose but what about when it comes at cost to you? What if it means investing in someone else to help them grow? I would have been a hypocrite to the message that I share and put out had not stepped back from my own business and helped my husband with his. And no I didn’t take these actions to avoid being a hypocrite. I was actually pretty reistant and it took some time for reflection and again day by day actions of showing up for him that helped me to see it differently.

Back to boundaries, no I didn’t just let my boundaries go all together. No I didn’t just fold and give up on myself and adopt my husband’s dream. I created parameters for success. We put a timeline on how long I would be helping him to build confidence in his new role as an independent insurance agent. I committed to putting my business to the side up until school started (we homeschool by the way) and then I we decided how I would ween myself out of being present. So two weeks of going MWF, the two more weeks of going T/TH and then going out one day a week to be a continued support. You see I’ve been a licensed insurance agent for 10 years now (ok I may have let it lapse a time or two but you get my point) so my sales objection fighting skill were needed in order to help my husband build confidence to even try something new and I wasn’t going to withhold that from him. Not at time like this when he needed me the most.

After all this wonderful awareness and gratitude toward how we decided to work through all of this, lo and behold my husband came to a realization that acting as an independent agent which really means being responsible for his own activity just like a business owner would wasn’t really a good idea for us afterall. So, in the end I got the opportunity to work alongside my husband and truly be a great support to him affording him the flexibility to try a new career path in his life. That’s truly a gift and warms my heart to have played a role in his life like this when he has truly sacrificed so much for this country and our family. We did this with grace, peace, and faith all while honoring are values and beliefs and I get to be full on with my business again. Yippeee!!

Here’s to more writing, increasing my audience, more makeup artistry gigs, and creating wonderful coaching packages for multi-passionate women of faith who are looking to operate in a more authentic and purposeful life and business. Your soulpurpose is waiting on you to show up lady!!!

I wonder sometimes because these situations are always matters of the heart. What if I would have had an attitude? What it I wouldn’t have had a gracious giving heart in the area of my time and talent with the willingness to put my desires on hold for a time and maturely and creatively create boundaries around how to move forward? What If I had to go through this lesson all over again?

I just thank God that he blessed us with the wisdom to navigate this difficult time and that he brought us out stronger than ever. You know what I’m reminded that it was God’s time, God’s talent and I let him use me as he saw fit. That was the beauty in all of this. Check out my 10-Day Now…That’s a Beautiful You Mindset Makeover Charge!

The girl that did what she was told

by Justina Ford | May 5, 2016 | Business Mindset | 2 comments

I’m the girl that did what she was told.

Not only did I do what I was told but there was a part of me that did this so well, that no one knew I was dying on the inside.

I followed the much expected path laid out for my life by family and friends. During this time, I was rotting with bitterness, regret, and nothing but negativity; always thinking and focusing on why the things I wanted out of life would never ever work out for me.

I went to church like I was told, I went to school like I was told, got my degrees like I was told, and found some pretty good jobs to match. Still I looked at other people who had “CAREERS” and felt like I didn’t match up.

Here I was, with a Bachelor in Psychology and a Master’s in Counseling with a concentration in Business. There had to be something wrong with me because I followed the expected path and I still felt incomplete, like a part of me was missing. I felt unsatisfied and lonely, I griped, I complained, I was negative, and a not-so-fun person to be around.

This was all because I was too afraid to give myself permission to dream bigger dreams than the expected path laid before me.

Then, one day, I sat on my couch and I day-dreamed about what success could look like for me. I remember it was only for a minute or two. But, along the way, (some would say ‘the long way’), I’ve been able to align my dream with my values.

My titles now, are nothing remotely close to what friends and family expected. In fact, the first times I uttered Professional Certified Published Makeup Artist and Mindset & Strategy Coach, it felt surreal. I felt like a fraud.

I used to beat myself up for creating these positions and giving myself these titles. I even paused while typing them in this about me section. One thing I do know, is that I am so much more than these titles. I have a much bigger message to share with those of you that want to break out of the box and give yourself permission to dream bigger.

More importantly:

I remember being a little girl in church and feeling like everyone was ‘putting on’. I remember people existing with a form of Godliness. They were satisfied! I felt these inconsistencies for a long time as a young child. I’m thankful that I did not allow those experiences to turn me away from a loving God and Savior. I rededicated my life to God in 2009 and from there my life has changed drastically. The lessons and tools that I share on Embracing Who You Really Are, Self-Worth, Confidence, Finding Your Voice, Guarding Your Energies, Connecting Authentically, Healing, and Abundance are all rooted in my choice and experience to accept God as the Lord over my life, my relationship with Jesus Christ, and my accepting of the Holy Spirit to work on my behalf as a child of God. I call this co-creating miracles in my life with God and co-designing my lifestyle with God!

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