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I’m Not Enough

I’m Not Enough

by | Mar 1, 2016 | Business Mindset | 5 comments

When heart-centered mompreneurs finally get clear on their purpose and their why…..

Then BAM!!

It hits them… they feel like their “why” doesn’t exactly match up with the level they feel their talent or skill should be at. They don’t feel like they are enough.

This feeling can be so paralyzing especially if you go into comparing yourself to others. This idea of not feeling like your talent is where it should be stems from feeling like you in the current moment are not enough for the audience that you want to serve.

I’d ask you to explore other areas in your life where you’ve felt like you aren’t enough.

  • Is there a relationship where you feel like you aren’t enough?
  • Are there other projects that you are working where you feel like you aren’t delivering enough?
  • Are your parents judging your current choices?
  • Does your husband discourage your efforts

If you are finding a common theme to multiple areas in your life where you are feeling like you aren’t enough, I invite you to consider these 3 steps.

What are your expectations of what you should be doing in your business?

Are you expecting something in return from the creative action you’re taking in business? One of these actions is creating valuable content. When you think about the content you are putting out and you begin to question yourself, is it more so that you are expecting people to like it or comment on it. Let go of the attachments and expectations from what you put out into the world. You are only capable of YOUR BEST and your best is GOOD ENOUGH.

What if this feeling of “not being enough” is a lie…Consider the Truth:

Just because a thought such as, “you aren’t enough” pops up into your mind it doesn’t mean it’s true. Every thought and self-talk communication that slips through into our minds do not get the validity of being a reality for you. When a thought pops up that doesn’t serve you force yourself to find an alternating thought that does serve. Make it your business to pause write down both thoughts cross out the other and meditate on the new thought. Go to god’s word to find the opposite. You can even perform a google search for an affirmation to offset the “I am not enough” self-talk.

Here is a link from a quick google search of 100 positive affirmations http://www.prolificliving.com/100-positive-affirmations/

Let go of the thoughts:

The step above is a way to loosen the entanglement of the thoughts centered around your feelings of not being enough. And just remember that letting go of a thought doesn’t mean you will all of a sudden feel good. It just means that you have chosen to become aware that these thoughts are there and you chose to move forward despite the thoughts. You’re choosing to move forward past the fear, create despite the fear, take action despite the doubt, become visible despite the doubt.

These thoughts may linger for some time, but the more you move through the feelings, the more you create from an authentic heart-centered place, the more you take action and the more you choose to be visible the feelings of not being enough start to fade to the back of your mind

Right now, you may be feeling like our skill set, your talent, your abilities, what you have to offer….  isn’t enough for the special people that you’re wanting to provide a solution too. “Will I really help this person, will they get enough out of what I have to offer?”

 I’m Not Enough

And here is just a little further insight with this fraud syndrome because that’s what it really is. 

For one you’ll never know if what you are offering is enough if you never try. For two, you create because it’s an innate part of you. You are creating from a heart and soul-centered place. Your creation comes out of your appetite to create. Not because you need some sort of approval. And even after you try and you get feedback from others saying how great you’ve been with them, you still may get those feelings that rise up and tell you, you aren’t enough. What will you do with those feelings? Revisit Step 1 -3 once again! 

Remember this when those feelings pop up:

  • It doesn’t matter what level you’re at in your field, everyone deals with that feeling of being enough
  • You are helping those that are a few steps behind you…so to them you are enough

And the biggest kicker of them all:

God works through us and in us by utilizing our weaknesses so that he can get the glory.

So yes you may never feel like you are enough but God has covered that and said that you are!!

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What Purity Has To Do With Your Why

What Purity Has To Do With Your Why

by | Feb 25, 2016 | Business Mindset

As heart-centered entrepreneurs it is so important that we operate from a heart and soul place. I don’t think we’d prefer business any other way. That means being pure about your intentions and how you plan to help people in your business.  The purity piece is about

– coming to terms with purely accepting who you are

– making the connection between your desires and what you love to do

– understanding how it translates into serving others

– building a business that is unique to you

 What Purity Has To Do With Your Why

Who you are, your desires and intention to serve all have to create this pure connection for it to make sense. I say this because people create things that they think people will like instead of creating from the center of their God-given talents and heart’s desire to solve problems for their ideal clients. 

There’s a stripping away that happens to you as you begin to search your heart and your purpose. It’s no longer about your titles or what others think you should be doing. It’s about who you are and what you stand for. This stripping away can be intentional or forced. I invite you to be intentional about it.

That heart-centered desire  has so much to do with your why and the kind of impact you want to make in others lives. Your why and the impact you want to make are deeply related to your God-given talents and skills.

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Vulnerability in Relationships and Business is the Same

Vulnerability in Relationships and Business is the Same

by | Nov 11, 2015 | Business Mindset

Do you ever feel vulnerable in your relationship?

Can we be vulnerable intentionally or does this happen on accident?

I think sometimes we find ourselves in a vulnerable position where it’s time to be honest or open about the way we feel and we weren’t necessarily ready for it. Vulnerability for some can seem like something that pops up in an unexpected moments and oops..your faced with the icky word and feeling “vulnerable”. I used to hate this feeling. Feeling vulnerable in front of other people meant I wasn’t prepared, I was being sensitive, and that I was weak! Feeling vulnerable also meant there the was the open possibility for others to hurt me or take advantage of me. I know now that:

Vulnerability doesn’t equal I’m about to get hurt.

That’s what vulnerable used to mean to me. I looked at it as, “OMG, things are getting scary and I’m liable to get hurt” Let’s take a look at business…

Cause, If this is how you view your relationships, when it comes to business, then guess what you will view it the same way.

Vulnerability in Relationships and Business is the Same

When we look at business we can think the same, “OMG, things are getting scary and I’m about to fail” How’s that for feeling vulnerable in business. No one likes the idea of failure and that can make us feel very vulnerable. How do I show up for the next venture? What will others think of me?

We are taking the position of fear. In this mindset you are looking at your situation from a standpoint of fear, run, flight, dodge get out of the way.

Well…I want you to start looking at your relationships differently. Show up ready to be vulnerable (not allowing the vulnerability to happen to you in the form of fear) but in the form of simple expression chosen by you.  what would happen if you said,” ok I’m going to chose to be vulnerable today let me share with this person how they make me feel so we can come to a solution.”?

In business its the same. Show up ready to ask your ideal clients what they need from you, ready to share lessons learned so they can see the solutions that you provide and you can figure out what it is that they need.

I’m here to tell you that it’s ok to be vulnerable in business. You will have failures, you will try new things and they all wont work. But if you never try you new know! I cant live a life not knowing. I chose not to live a life not knowing!

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