One of the top questions we often ask ourselves is, “How do I know my desires aren’t just me?” This is certainly a valid question to ask and we should ask it more often than not. Why? Well, for starters, it’s really easy to get side-tracked from the desires God has for you. Left unchecked for too long and you’ll certainly find yourself declaring and doing things that are not part of your Spirit-led calling. As a well-established multi-passionate entrepreneur, I have veered off my path… several times. But what I’d like to share with you in this post is the process of dividing my own desires from that of God. In addition, I’m gonna share with you how God responds if you make a mistake even after trying your best.

3 Ways to Know Your Desires Aren’t Just You

Just in case you’re new here, my name is Justina, The Soul-Brand Alignment Strategist. I’m a Christian Inner Healing Practitioner and Intuitive Business Coach, and I help my clients chart their own paths, create their own passion-based businesses, and build cohesive brands so they can be more visible and profitable in their business. Now that we’ve met, let’s talk about your desires and knowing they aren’t just you.

The ‘New Age’ world would say…

You are your own creator. You can create your own desires based on your own likes (and dislikes) and you have the power to manifest whatever you want. They would also give you tons of affirmations, mantras, and declarations that would continue putting you in God’s seat. Not to say that God doesn’t give us any of the above, but there has and always will be an order to the way He does things – especially when it comes to what He created.

Questions to Ask Yourself

The three questions we’re going to look at below are the keys to knowing whether or not your desires aren’t just you. I can tell you from personal experience that these questions were life-changing for me. I could begin seeing my desires shift on all levels and the boldness to walk out my calling became evident. As you read each question and snippet that follows, take a few moments to really meditate and prayerfully consider your answers. In fact, it’s probably a good idea to go ahead and grab a journal.

Do you have a relationship with God and have you asked him to be Lord over your life?

This is probably one of the single most important questions to ask yourself, especially as a professing believer in God. It’s easy to give lip service, but how do you genuinely feel about this question? Is your relationship built on the faith of others around you? Is your relationship with God built on legalism or performance in hopes to gain His love and blessings?

The second part of this question involves the part of the relationship that most people aren’t quite all-in on. When asking God to be Lord over your life, this means relinquishing control. Oftentimes, we want to control our gifts, talents, and desires. In reality, we need to give every bit of this to the One we proclaim as Lord over our lives. As you answer these two questions, be honest with any areas that may need refining. Give them to God and pray for a fresh start.

Have you prayed and asked God to place His desires in your heart to make your heart sensitive to the things of His heart?

Truthfully, to hear the answers to this kind of prayer, you’ll need to have established a relationship with God and given Him lordship over your life. This will put you one step closer to hearing His desires versus your own. This is the very prayer that was a game-changer for me. Praying for God to empty me of myself and fill me with Him was just the beginning. 

I could then become more clear, aligned, and in tune with what He was calling me to do and manifest the business of my dreams. And I knew it was of Him when I started having thoughts like, “Who me? You want me to do what? How am I gonna-” and so on. You see, God’s desires for us are always going to be more than we can fathom. What He calls us to do will always seem to be bigger than ourselves. And there’s a reason for it.  He wants us totally dependent upon Him.   

Does it line up with His word?

Once you begin receiving downloads of God’s desires for your life, make sure they line up with His Word. When these desires are from God, you won’t have to twist, bend, or manipulate scripture to make them line up. You’ll be able to clearly see that they line up with His Word and you’ll see the fruit of pursuing it.

Resources to Help

I can’t sit here and say that I navigated this process all on my own. There are 2 books that I’ve read that really helped me in this process of dividing my own desires from that of God. The first book is Called to Create by Jordan Raynor. He helps artists, entrepreneurs, writers, and other creatives reimagine our work as a service to God and others. The second book is Discerning the voice of God by Priscilla Shirer. Her book contains insights that will aid you in your desire to hear God speak.

Final Thoughts

It is 100% normal to question whether or not your desires are you or of God. It’s healthy to ask yourself this along life’s journey to make sure you are constantly in alignment with what He created you to do. Get in the habit of asking this and using the three questions above to journal out your answers. As time passes on, you can look back and see how you and your desires have changed. And I’m willing to bet they will be in alignment with the specific season of life you’re in.

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